Last night I was going to the bathroom when all three kids started banging on the door, yelling Mo-mmm--ee. They were yelling crying, throwing fits when Scott came over and said, "what's going on?" Abegail replied, Mommy in there. Scott said, yea, so. She in there! She in there! Scott calmly replied, she's going to the bathroom. They looked at him like yea, so? He continued, do you think she wants to be bothered now? None of them understood. Of all the things African children who are adopted need, the greatest is love and constant attention and if you're a four year old boy to be held all the time except for when you are taking off your clothes to poop. Sorry to be so blunt, but I have never cleaned up so much poop since my new children arrived and still I cannot get a stool sample for the doctor. What is wrong with this picture? Annie got sent home from daycare because of bathroom issues today. What is a mother to do?
I have learned more about my husband since my kids got home than in 6 years. He is a way better parent than I am. He is more patient, they listen to him, they actually do what he says. He can get them to bed. He doesn't lose his cool. Maybe its just that he's had more sleep than me, maybe he is less obsessed with his 'to do' list, maybe he just understands the wee wee issue better than I ever will.
African children have no concept of saving the environment, everywhere I go there is a TV, a light, and definitely a faucet left on. We get out of the bath sopping wet and get back in and get out and leave the tub to overflow with the water running. It's electricity, are they making up for the lifetime they haven't had it?
Liberian children can yell louder and farther than an entire cheerleading squad combined. I could be at the neighbors with a Wal Mart going up next door and the lawn mower running and still here the sound, Momm--eee!!! I'll say, what? Huh??? We are definitely trying to get them to learn my new two favorite words, "excuse me?" Everything is Huh??? I asked Abegail, "are you starting to understand me better? She said, Huh???? Guess not.
I have my moments where I think, who's idea was this? Why on earth was I so cocky I thought I could do this. I always said it will be chaos. Did I not know what chaos was? Then I have these moments where I think we are getting better, we can do this. The kids are so loving, so beautiful, have so much potential. And then I smell it, more poop on the bathroom floor.