Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Zone Defense

Going from one to three kids has been quite the adjustment for Scott and me. We are so outnumbered! Our days are full of refereeing, wiping up spills, and ruling whose turn it is to be carried. Everyone told us having two or three children is way different than having just one, but there is no way to know that until you are in a constant string of fulfilling needs. I don't think it would be exaggerating to say Scott and I feel overwhelmed most of the time.

Emmanuel has moments where he is so sweet and loves to give tons of kisses and says "I love you" more than any other kid. Perhaps to earn "points" with us? But we are always on guard. Since we have gotten home (a week ago Tues.) he has averaged two fits a day. These fits can last anywhere from 15 minutes to two hours. There's no telling what is going to set him off. Seatbelts are a major cause for meltdowns. He's used to riding in the front seat of a car in someone's lap. Airplane rides result in looooong and serious meltdowns.

We hope we are getting better at knowing what he needs. But I think both children have a deep level of apprehension. How can you not? They barely know us, they are meeting tons of people that we are like, love them, trust them. Talk about being out of your comfort zone! We think some routine at home and structure will be great for both kids. Both kids are having fun doing a lot of firsts.

Last night we went to see the sunset and they had a reggae band and they let Emmanuel play the steel drums. Both kids love water. I think Abegail is even swimming a little on her own already! They also love the hot baths and would stay in there for hours if we let them. We have had no trouble with food except they both love milk and it's given E-man a few bathroom problems but just cutting back a little will help.

We definitely feel like the kids are ours however and for some reason they are just as easy to love as Annie, fits and all.


Anonymous said...

So good to hear from you again...we have been so eager to know how it's going at the Cape. The pictures tell so much. These kids are precious (fits & all) and so lucky. You guys will find a groove I know. We'll keep praying for you all. Hugs and kisses all around, Mom & Dad R.

Anonymous said...

For all your patience and perseverance...'God bless you, real good!' as they say in Oklahoma.
Grandpa R

Nancy said...

I don't know why, but for some reason, seatbelts being a problem for E-man doesn't surprise me. Riding can't be one of his favorite pastimes right now with all that he has had to do in the past weeks. Now imagine being plucked up and put down in a whole different world, and having someone leaning over you, smiling, saying "Oh, just let me strap you down while you sit back and enjoy this!" I am not making light of what must be a serious source of frustration for you right now, but I just know that with your patience and love, he will soon come to realize that he can accept and depend on that love and learn that this is something he can count on without being apprehensive.
Hugs to everyone,

The Googeg's said...

What an adjustment! I have always heard that the hardest time is when the 3rd child comes. I went from 2 to 4 and now am waiting to go from 4 to 6. Outnumbered is how we live. When a routine is set in you will feel better. Amazing how adopted children get your heart just as quickly as birth children!

Keep keepin' on

Debbie Googeg

Anonymous said...

What a blessing you are to each other and especially to these two "forever" children. I am getting ready to return to Kenya and work again with the orphans there. THere is so much need and I am so thankful for people like you! May the Lord bless you and give you much strength and patience!
Nancy R in WI.